I became a first time mum at 46 after spending £70,000 on IVF…

 A couple who spent more than £70,000 on fertility treatment have welcomed a ‘miracle baby’ in their late forties following four devastating miscarriages. 

Jessica Peacock, 47, from Essex, had always dreamed of having children of her own, but was told she would be unable to conceive naturally due to her low egg reserve. 

But because her husband, Ian, 49, already had two children from a previous relationship, the couple also didn’t qualify for IVF on the NHS – giving them no other option than to pay privately. 

‘I was devastated when I found out we couldn’t have children naturally and we didn’t qualify for IVF,’ the fertility mentor recalls. 

‘I was turning 40 but I didn’t think about age because Ian and I met later in life and all I cared about was being happy and having a child. 

‘But it’s a postcode lottery with IVF,’ she added. 

According to Government guidelines, integrated care boards do not have to fund IVF if either partner has any living children from the current or previous relationships, regardless of their age or whether the child resides with them. 

This was the case for Jessica and Ian – despite his children now being in their late teens – whose care fell under the Cambridge and Peterborough NHS Foundation Trust. 

The couple have since spent around £70,000 on IVF, starting in the UK before relocating their care to Spain, where a woman can undergo treatment until the age of 51. 

‘When I fell pregnant after the first round of IVF, I was absolutely over the moon and couldn’t believe it had worked,’ Ms Peacock said. 

‘I felt like the happiest luckiest girl in the world and was crushed when I miscarried.

‘My dreams were shattered,’ she continued. ‘I’d been thinking about what the baby would look like and whose features would it have.

‘I was very confused and naive because I thought I’d fall pregnant and that would be that. But there was a lot I didn’t understand and the grief was really hard.’ 

Ms Peacock had to undergo a manual vacuum procedure following the miscarriage to remove the pregnancy tissue left in her womb. 

Heartbreakingly, she would suffer three more miscarriages and undergo ten more cycles of IVF before carrying their miracle baby, Oliver, now one, to term. 

After two failed cycles in the UK, the couple were forced to search for options abroad as their savings began to dwindle.

But even using a donor egg with Ian’s sperm was unsuccessful –  and Ms Peacock was left facing the very real chance that she would never have a child of her own. 

To make thing harder, she was then diagnosed with endometriosis and hydrosalpinx – whereby the fallopian tubes become blocked with fluid – conditions which make it even harder to get pregnant. 

After three miscarriages and seven further rounds of IVF, Ms Peacock decided she was done trying. 

‘I told Ian I couldn’t do it anymore,’ she said. ‘We’d spent all our money trying to have a baby but I was physically, mentally and emotionally done. 

‘But I was still yearning to have a baby,’ she conceded. 

In a last attempt, the couple visited another clinic in the UK where doctors identified a previously overlooked problem: her body was attacking the embryo.

Finally, under careful supervision and a revised treatment plan, the 46-year-old carried her last hope embryo to term. 

‘I was so scared ,’ she remember. ‘My anxiety was huge until about 20 weeks. I tapped into nutrition, gut health, exercised and went on walks every day.

‘I had a lovely pregnancy with no issues and I had a lovely little bump. I was very lucky,’ she added.  

The couple welcomed their son just over seven months later, who was delivered via caesarean section. 

Now Ms Peacock says their life has changed forever. 

‘I love being a new mum in my forties. We’ve loved our lives, we’ve travelled and we’ve partied and now we have a family. 

‘I wouldn’t change it for the world,’ she added. 

‘I feel so blessed he’s such a happy little boy. Oliver is my world.’ 

The couple have now started thinking about trying for another baby in the future. 

The UK’s fertility regulator warned last year the women are starting IVF too late, with the average age reaching 35 for the first time. 

A report by the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority found women starting fertility treatment are now typically six years older than those having their first babies naturally.

The trend – which lowers the chances of IVF working – has been blamed on long NHS waiting lists, Covid delays and the prohibitive costs of private treatment.