Are YOU a good flirt? Take the 5-minute test to see how you stack up,
From James Bond to Jessica Rabbit, many of the most famous movie characters are known for their flirting skills.
Yet in the real world, some people struggle mightily when it comes to chatting up someone they fancy.
So, are you a good flirt?
Experts at Psychology Today have developed an easy five-minute test that reveals how your skills stack up against your peers.
‘There are five flirting styles: physical, playful, polite, sincere, and traditional,’ the team explained.
‘Physical flirts use body language; playful flirts think it’s a game; polite flirts are cautious; sincere flirts look for authentic connection; and traditional flirts rely on conventional gender roles.
‘See where you fall on this flirting personality scale.’
If your flirting skills are rusty, panic not – a recent study revealed the best tactics for men and women.
Psychology Today has created two versions of the flirting test – one for men, and one for women.
Both tests feature 20 statements, with respondents asked to respond with how strongly they agree or disagree with them.
Sample statements from the test for men include ‘When flirting, I typically make more eye contact than usual,’ and ‘I try to be humble when I’m flirting.’
Meanwhile, women can expect statements such as ‘When flirting, I often toss my hair,’ and ‘I frequently touch the person I’m flirting with in some way, such as on the arm.’
At the end of the test, you’ll be given a score out of 100 and told what this means.
For reference, the average score for women is 68, while the average score for men in 66.
If you scored 0-24, you’re classed as ‘not a flirty person.’
‘You are likely not comfortable flirting and may not be aware when you’re being flirted with,’ Psychology Today explained.
‘While some people like the games and mystery of flirting, you’d prefer to speak plainly.’
A score of 25-39 is classed as a ‘subtly flirtatious personality.’
‘You are likely not comfortable flirting and may not be aware when you’re being flirted with,’ the experts explained.
‘While some people like the games and mystery of flirting, you’d prefer to speak plainly.’
If you scored between 60 and 68, you have a ‘moderately flirtatious personality’, according to Psychology Today.
It explained: ‘While you’d prefer to speak plainly sometimes, you’re not afraid to turn on the charm.
‘Others may not describe you as a flirt, but you are no stranger to the language of romance.
‘If some people get lost in the games of leading on prospective lovers, you’ve struck a balance between being standoffish and a full-blown flirt.’
Taking this up a notch, you have a ‘flirtatious personality’ if you scored 69-86.
‘You are an expert at laying on the charm and knowing what to say when,’ Psychology Today said.
‘Your romantic conversations can be very effective, but you may lead people on. You are an expert in the language of sexual mystery.’
Finally, you’re a ‘master flirt’ if you scored between 87 and 100.
‘You are a natural flirt,’ the experts said.
‘You have perfected the language of romance and are an expert at turning on the charm.
‘You may love the game of flirting but you may also lead people on. You cultivate an air of sexual mystery.’
If you’re disappointed with your score, don’t panic – help is at hand.
In 2022, scientists from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology revealed the best flirting tactics for men and women.
For men, the key is being funny and generous, according to the team.
On the flip side, males prefer the opposite sex to appear sexually available and to laugh at their jokes.
‘What’s most effective depends on your gender and whether the purpose of the flirtation is a long-term or short-term relationship,’ said Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair, a professor at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology.
