A 22-year-old woman who has never had sex has opened up about the reasons behind her lack of intimacy during the second season of controversial Virgin Island.
British events coordinator Joy has dedicated her life to Christianity – but while her religion is crucial to her, it’s led to a discomfort around the idea of sex.
‘I feel like I have this weight on my shoulders if I’m a Christian’, she told the Channel 4 series, adding: ‘You have to be good, and experiencing sexual pleasure for fun, how is that good?’
But it isn’t just feelings of religious shame that’s holding Joy back from exploring her sexual side. She said: ‘I know I have a sexual side to me, but I have vaginismus.
‘Vaginismus is a condition related to your pelvic floor and also has a psychological fear component around the idea of insertion or entry.’
The condition leads the vagina to suddenly tighten up whenever penetration is attempted. Those impacted have no control over it, which can be extremely distressing.
Appearing on the programme’s first episode, which airs tonight at 9pm, Joy said: ‘The moment I realised I had vaginismus; it was like this whole idea of a sector of my life that could be closed up.
‘I can’t wear a tampon, I can’t do a pap smear, and I definitely can’t have sex. It’s so hard.’
Joy (pictured), 22, has revealed how her faith led her to have a shameful conception about intimacy in the new season of Virgin Island
At one point, Joy believed her condition was a punishment from God: ‘I thought God cursed me with vaginismus. I thought he did it to me to stop me from having sex. It’s hard to undo that feeling.’
While talking with a therapist on the Channel 4 show, which airs this evening at 9pm, she added that the idea of sex for pleasure makes her ‘anxious’.
The therapist took her through some deep breathing exercises in a bid to help release her trauma.
‘You deserve to have that pleasure,’ the therapist said as Joy broke down in tears in an emotional scene.’
Joy’s appearance comes in the first episode of the second series of the show, which is set on a Mediterranean island.
The series follows 12 adults as they embark on a journey of self-discovery and openness to intimacy while tucked away from the distractions of modern life.
Channel 4’s new six-part series sees sexologists Dr Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman and their team guide the group of virgins on a unique course.
The contributors, all aged between 22 and 30 years old, overcome a range of emotional hurdles to take their first steps towards sex and intimacy, with a range of approaches being used, including group sessions and surrogate partner therapy.
A therapist took Joy through some breathing exercises in a bid to release trauma (pictured together)
It comes after co-founders of the Somatica Institute, Danielle and Celeste, branded sex on other TV shows as ‘harmful and unrealistic’.
The pair who lead the programme, which premieres on Channel 4 at 9pm on Monday, told the Daily Mail how they felt sex in the media can damage expectations.
When asked if she felt there was too much sex on TV, Celeste, who has a Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Studies, said: ‘I don’t know if there’s too much, but the quality of sex on television is abysmal.
‘It’s like three kisses up against the wall, pulling off the pants, sticking it in, and then it’s over.’
She felt it would be more helpful if a ‘more realistic’ perception was put out in the media.
‘I feel like if they portrayed sex as more realistic, more connected, more at a pace that is like what people actually do, then it might be a boon to have that much sex on television,’ Celeste explained.
‘But if it’s just this c*** sex, then, I think it’s not helpful at all. In fact, it’s quite harmful. It creates expectations that are ridiculous.’
Virgin Islands airs at 9pm this evening on Channel 4.
